“The people who most impacted my life are the ones that just sat with me.” My clients say things all of the time that affect me deeply, but this statement, uttered by a dear soul a few weeks ago, took my breath away. It wasn’t new insight for either of […]

The Theology of Sitting

When I was a kid, “Saved By the Bell” was one of my favorite shows. I know I’m not alone in this; it was our generation’s “Friends” before there was “Friends.” Three guys, three girls. Just doing life together. Like all of you, I remember feeling so excited and so […]

He Crossed, We Circle

The season finale of This Is Us airs tonight, and I’ve already texted a few of my friends in anticipation. Will Kevin flourish or flounder as he, once again, is faced with a Sophie choice? Will Randall be able to step into a new life and identity, or will the old […]

This is Us

Exactly three years ago today, when I was pregnant with our daughter, I spoke at a women-only event for our church. The event was an extension of a sermon series my husband had just completed, called DTR: Defining True Romance, and its purpose was to allow women to gather together […]

Fish and Loaves

*This post was originally published on Our Words Collaborative, which is “a tribe of writers who collectively share the way God moves in their lives.”   Have you ever walked into a room and been greeted by a certain smell? It was a clue that said to you, “Something just […]

Something Just Happened Here

Loud club music. Low lighting. Great people. A fantastic workout. Orange Theory Fitness has become a regular part of my week. It’s 60 minutes of so-much-fun and oh-so-challenging, which makes me both grateful for and slightly bitter towards the two lady-loves that introduced me to it in the first place. […]

Is This For Me? Am I For This?

Deep in the meadow, under the willow; A bed of grass, a soft green pillow Lay down your head, and close your sleepy eyes; And when again they open, the sun will rise. Here it’s safe, here it’s warm; Here the daisies guard you from every harm Here your dreams are sweet and […]

Recessive Genes, Reflection and Redemption

Women who claim “you’re-so-pretty” as a part of their narrative sit on my couch weekly. For as long as I can remember, people have always told me, “You’re so pretty!” At first it felt satisfying, and I’d say thank you. But eventually, it started to feel like pressure. “You’re-so-pretty” became […]

“You’re So Pretty”

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My mother-in-law once told me that my husband was the kind of kid that asked a ton of questions. Oldest child is cut from the same cloth as his daddy, so I’ve been bracing myself for the stream of consciousness of curiosity from our little boy. Alas, at just 5 years old, […]

More Musings of My Children

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.” Steven Furtick, lead pastor of Elevation Church, was credited for saying this a few years ago at the Willow Creek Leadership Summit about the way we engage each other, particularly through technology. When his […]

The Highlight Reel

Well, it’s time to let the cat out of the bag. No, I am not pregnant. We’re pretty sure our family is complete. No, we aren’t moving. Been there, done that. No, I don’t have some other grand announcement to make. I mean literal cat. Out of the literal bag. Because […]

The Ten Commandments

Proverbs 31:10-31. The Excellent Wife. The Woman of Valor. The Ideal. Without a doubt, this piece of Scripture has become a part of mainstream Christian culture. We’ve got Thirty-One Gifts and Proverbs 31 Ministries, and it’s not uncommon for preachers across America to use parts of this passage to speak […]

On Valentine’s Day

To specialize or not to specialize?  That was the question. At some point during my graduate program for counseling, I had to decide whether or not I was going to pursue eating disorders as a clinical specialty. If I chose to go that route, I had the job of my dreams […]

The Slots

“There is nobody that’s going to take care of you but you.” I heard Kay Warren speak these words to a roomful of pastors’ wives a few years ago, and they’ve never been as true for me as they are now. I’m in a season of my life where I […]

Love God and Take Care of Your Lady Bits

Tuesday, oh Tuesday, a part of me loathes you, wretched Tuesday. Tuesday is traditionally the day of the week that is the most challenging for me. I don’t know why, exactly, but I figure it’s a combination of factors. I work long-hours on Monday, so by Tuesday I’m trying to get caught […]